Key Points

I'm an explorer - I discover what has already been invented that others missed to avoid re-inventing the wheel

References

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https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/principles-lifelong-meaningful-relationships-ray-dalio/	Ray Dalio on life long relationships
https://unherd.com/2019/12/is-this-the-end-for-labour/	Paul Embrey on what liberal UK voters really want and why they voted conservative in 2019
https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/thomas_sowell_163937	Thomas Sowell on "Johnny doesn't know what thinking is" **

https://www.businessinsider.com/the-40-smartest-people-of-all-time-2015-2#now-take-a-look-at-whos-sharp-on-wall-street--41

Signs your partner cares for you video

_emotional-intelligence-notes 2 gdoc Is Emotional Intelligence More Important Than IQ_.pdf. link

Key Concepts

Master Life

book-Master Life-notes3-feedback. gdoc

Master Life-v1.pdf. link

Master Life-v1.pdf ( file download for this pdf file )

The lessons >>

Lesson 1: Master yourself
Lesson 2: Master relationships
Lesson 3: Master financial health
Lesson 4: Master Time
Lesson 5: Master Learning

Key Points to Understand - Master expectations

The saying "You can grow up to be anything you want to be" is false.

Not everyone can be President or a famous movie star.
I should have been both but I only got 1 vote - mine - LOL.

Replace it with:

"Learning, planning, hard work are the foundations for success - not a guarantee. Be prepared for success and failure. Most successful people have failed often but made corrections"
and "Happy people work at it. Unhappy people don't"
and "Most of life is not what happens to you but how you react to it"
and "Relationships are like investments: you put more in when you see good returns".

Life is a journey, not a destination

Life is a journey, not a destination. I held back on spending time on relationships I enjoy waiting until I arrived at the person I want to be. Now I realize I just have to focus on heading in the right direction but spend time developing the relationships that matter whether you are where you want to be or not. If you don't want a "work in progress" I'm fine with that now.

Forgive yourself when you fail, work to improve, Enjoy each day

no one's perfect .. oh wait .. that includes me .. the best you can do is recognize how to improve, do your best to deliver on that, forgive yourself when you come up short sometimes and keep moving forward to improve ... 1 more thing .. .don't forget to find joy in each day you have

It's what you take away from the effort that matters in the end. Hardened steel is forged in fire. I wrestled but never won tournaments. I'm 75. I'm in better shape now than I was in high school. The lessons? Focus. Determination. Patience. They pay off forever.

Jim Mason - "how to master the science and art of being wrong"

Homer White - "Life is Art and you're the Artist"

Everyday paint the picture you want your life to be. You are the artist. You're in Control !"

Live life. Don't be a photographer and just capture what's there. Be a bold painter. Grab the colors you want. Create the images you want. The ones that make your heart beat faster. Everyday is your chance to create another masterpiece. I was lucky to learn that lesson many years ago from a great friend who was an artist who painted his life as a new picture everyday. Life didn't happen to him. He created the life he loved. My friend, the artist, Homer White.

Homer White retrospective to be held in Foxboro _ Local News _ thesunchronicle.com-2024.pdf

Mark Twain quote - "Life is Short"

LIFE is short break the rules, FORGIVE quickly, KISS slowly, LOVE truly, LAUGH uncontrollably, and never REGRET anything that made you SMILE ??

Our life is the picture we paint - paint intentionally

In the world, we are all artists. We interact with the world and then what we see in our minds and hearts is the picture we have created as the artist. Wrong or right. Happy or sad, that's what we do.

The things I've focused on have changed. The things that matter have not changed much at all.

Be intentional about your investments in >> focus, people, time, energy, money, work, hobbies

The value of life is the great moments you keep forever

The value in life comes from the great moments you had. Most of those came with those you loved. They are the treasure you keep forever. They can pay back forever

Focus gets easier as you get older

The one thing that seems automatic to me. The older you get in the game of life, the easier it is to focus on what's most important in your life: drive toward those relationships, those moments, those tasks, those activities that make you happy and let the rest go

Always take the time to set your priorities in life first

Life teaches us lessons everyday.

Life teaches us lessons everyday.
We may choose to ignore them.
A newphew dies at 25 after a transplant fails.
A friend has to plan her own funeral from cancer.
Your Life isn't easy.
Your Life is important.
Celebrate Your Life.
How you spend it matters everyday.
Every minute
For you and those you love.
Tomorrow remember this.

Everyday, Your LIfe is a Work of Art

Life is not easy many times.
Because we care, hope, love, we can be hurt.
For me, understanding feelings, expectations and consequences, mine and others, is key.
When I look forward and see life is hard and I'm challenged,
I remember my past challenges and how I succeeded or survived those.
When I look at others who have faced greater challenges and succeeded, I'm inspired.
Then I focus on what I can do today to move in the right direction for me now.
Given the challenges and opportunities, I'm the artist and I will paint today with the colors I choose.
And then I'm grateful I created another picture

Happiness and how to create it

happiness-matters-2022-hbswk.hbs-edu-Blissful Thinking When It Comes to Finding Happiness Your Dreams Are Liars.pdf

happiness-matters-2022-hbswk.hbs.edu-Blissful Thinking When It Comes to Finding Happiness Your Dreams Are Liars.pdf file

Happiness is a decision you make everyday - or not

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1DFoJf1vKC/

Healthy Fulfillment is the Key to Real Happiness

The recipe for healthy individuals and societies

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/surgeon-general-urges-americans-rethink-110000568.html

a response to the essay in the link above

Great essay on what the underlying problems are in society - people and their ability to like themselves and what they do. I have worked in education, healthcare and many social services institutions and roles including parent, teacher, coach, manager, house parent for juvenile delinquents after getting a degree in pyschology. It was easy to see why those institutions and programs come up short in creating healthy, fulfilled humans that function well in a society much of the time. The limiting factor is always the invalid assumptions those in power in the institutions operate under. Common sense is in short supply. Gun control is one of a hundred examples. I have seen human failure and success many times. The recipe for individual and team fulfillment and success was always based on clarity on communications and consensus on expectations, consequences, purpose, commitment, focus and opportunity to fulfill those purposes. Nothing more.

Forever Young - Bob Dylan

https://www.bobdylan.com/songs/forever-young/

May God bless and keep you always

May your wishes all come true

May you always do for others

And let others do for you

May you build a ladder to the stars

And climb on every rung

May you stay forever young

May you grow up to be righteous

May you grow up to be true

May you always know the truth

And see the lights surrounding you

May you always be courageous

Stand upright and be strong

May you stay forever young

May your hands always be busy

May your feet always be swift

May you have a strong foundation

When the winds of changes shift

May your heart always be joyful

May your song always be sung

May you stay forever young

What is Young and Old?

Young and old are states of mind.
I had a young best friend who was in his 90s.
I have friends who were old in their 20s.
You have many different ages.
Your chronological age.
Your emotional age.
Your financial age.
Your physical age.
They are not the same.

Colin Powell's 13 Rules for Life

http://executiveexcellence.com/13-rules-leadership-colin-powell/

Powell’s 13 Rules are listed below. They are full of emotional intelligence and wisdom for any leader.

1. It Ain’t as Bad as You Think! It Will Look Better in the Morning. Leaving the office at night with a winning attitude affects more than you alone; it conveys that attitude to your followers.

2. Get Mad Then Get Over It. Instead of letting anger destroy you, use it to make constructive change.

3. Avoid Having Your Ego so Close to your Position that When Your Position Falls, Your Ego Goes With It. Keep your ego in check, and know that you can lead from wherever you are.

4. It Can be Done. Leaders make things happen. If one approach doesn’t work, find another.

5. Be Careful What You Choose. You May Get It. Your team will have to live with your choices, so don’t rush.

6. Don’t Let Adverse Facts Stand in the Way of a Good Decision. Superb leadership is often a matter of superb instinct. When faced with a tough decision, use the time available to gather information that will inform your instinct.

7. You Can’t Make Someone Else’s Choices. You Shouldn’t Let Someone Else Make Yours. While good leaders listen and consider all perspectives, they ultimately make their own decisions. Accept your good decisions. Learn from your mistakes.

8. Check Small Things. Followers live in the world of small things. Find ways to get visibility into that world.

9. Share Credit. People need recognition and a sense of worth as much as they need food and water.

10. Remain calm. Be kind. Few people make sound or sustainable decisions in an atmosphere of chaos. Establish a calm zone while maintaining a sense of urgency.

11. Have a Vision. Be Demanding. Followers need to know where their leaders are taking them and for what purpose. To achieve the purpose, set demanding standards and make sure they are met.

12. Don’t take counsel of your fears or naysayers. Successful organizations are not built by cowards or cynics.

13. Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier. If you believe and have prepared your followers, your followers will believe.

Johnny doesn't know what thinking is

https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/thomas_sowell_163937

The problem isn't that Johnny can't read.

The problem isn't even that Johnny can't think.

The problem is that Johnny doesn't know what thinking is; he confuses it with feeling.

Thomas Sowell

Lies vs the Truth - a great read to explain life now

https://madeyoulook.quora.com/WHY-LIES-ARE-BETTER-THAN-THE-TRUTH-A-SCIENTIFIC-COMPARISON-TEST-BY-Allen-Shermanllen-Sherman

_why-lies-are-better-than-the-truth.docx

_why-lies-are-better-than-the-truth.pdf

http://bigeducationape.blogspot.com/2018/01/why-trump-lies-are-better-than-truth_28.html

The Rape of the A*P*E* is a book by Allan Sherman, published in September 1973 by the Putnam Publishing Group,^[1] regarding sex and its historical repression and resurgence in the United States.^[2]^[3] The "A.P.E." on the title is a play on the words "ape" and the "American Puritan Ethic".

The book was the subject of much publicity, when it appeared, due to both its subject and author. Despite his ill health at the time, Sherman went on a two-week media tour to promote The Rape and appeared on many radio shows.^[3] He died on November 20, 1973, just two months after the book was published.

Plato: we chase goals that don't lead to happiness in many cases

The second question Plato was asked, “What do you suggest?”

The sage replied, “Don’t try to get anyone to like you, the only thing to do is to leave yourself to be loved. And the most important thing in life is not to have the most, but to need the least.”

Plato was once asked two questions.
The first, “What are the behaviours of people that surprise you the most?”
Plato replied “They get bored in childhood and hurry to grow up but then they miss their childhood. They lose their health to earn money but they pay money to regain their health. Worried about tomorrow, they forget about today.
In the end, they live neither today nor tomorrow. They live as if they will never die, but they die as if they have never lived.”
The second question was, “What do you suggest?”
The sage replied, “Don’t try to get anyone to like you, the only thing to do is to leave yourself to be loved. And the most important thing in life is not to have the most, but to need the least.”
Plato, whose real name was actually Aristocles, was a brilliant philosopher who lived in Greece around 2,400 years ago.
These excerpts from the Dialogues of Plato highlight that the modern lifestyle currently plaguing humanity isn’t actually very modern at all.
It is in fact, old af.
It certainly begs the question, “Have we evolved as a species in the last two millennia?”

Relationships

How to Talk So People Listen

https://www.cnbc.com/2022/06/27/3-ways-to-talk-to-kids-so-they-will-actually-listen.html

the ability to listen is critical

You get what you want and they get what they want. It’s win-win

Say what you see - without judgements

Say what you see. Rather than imposing your judgement on other’s behavior, resist the urge to react and quite literally vocalize what you see.

Ask how they feel about it.

Listen. Don't judge.

Acknowledge and clarify

Show you understand how they feel.

Ask the right questions. How can I help? How do feel about X? Why? What if X?

If they are concerned or frustrated, ask how you can help.

Offer specific, simple choices to get feedback

Adjust your thoughts, feelings, questions and responses as needed

End on a Strength and a Commitment

Agree on their strengths and opportunities

Help them find their next step

Offer your support where it makes sense

Get their commitment and follow up tasks on both ends

Ray Dalio on life long meaningful relationships

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/principles-lifelong-meaningful-relationships-ray-dalio/

meaningful relationships

I just wrote these two principles because I’m thinking about my son and his fiancé who are about to be married, I’m thinking about my two other married sons and their relationships with their wives, I’m thinking about my 43-year marriage with my wife, I’m thinking about the multi-decade partnerships with my partners at Bridgewater, and I’m thinking about my many other long and deep relationships. These relationships have been the best things in my life, and I’m thinking that I should pass along the principles I learned about how to have such meaningful lifelong relationships.

Principle 1):

What creates and sustains truly great relationships (like great marriages and great partnerships) is the unwavering belief that nothing is more important than the relationship.

That’s because in all relationships there will be bad times and disagreements including very big and important ones, and what is required to sustain relationships through those bad times and large and small disagreements is the belief that no issue is more important than the relationship. It is that belief and the mutual demonstrated commitment to it that creates the willingness to work things out so that the bad times and the disagreements are gotten through together. Each needs to give that type of commitment and to see the other give it in order to have the great relationship. If you both believe hard enough that that’s true and operate as though it is true, it will probably become true, and if you don’t believe it’s true or you don’t act as though it’s true it doesn’t have a chance of becoming true. It is that demonstrated that is true love.

Of course, in the early stage of a relationship there is no reason to believe that nothing is more important than the relationship and that the mutual commitments are there because that hasn’t been well tested. Because of that, you just have to have faith that it’s true and act as if it’s true and then see if the other person does the same. And of course, just the belief that the relationship is more important than the issues will not matter if the issues are really more important than the relationship. So, when facing those challenging bad times and disagreements in a relationship, and when making those important calls of what’s most important, you need to think hard about how important the relationship you have really is relative to how important getting your way is because the decisions you will make at those times either strengthen your relationship or weaken it.

Principle 2):

If you need to assess the value of your relationship, think hard about whether your most important values and principles are aligned, putting the really important ones ahead of the not so important ones.

In doing that assessment, please remember that a) the greatest things to have in life are great relationships, especially your most important relationships, b) you won’t be able to have great long-term relationships if you can’t get past the the disagreements and the imperfections because all relationships have disagreements and imperfections, c) no relationship will work in the long run if your most important values and principles are not aligned, and e) it takes a whole lot of trying and figuring things out in order come up with the best path.

My Dad on marriage

marriage is not 50-50.

To make it work, you need real communication and both people have to be happy and willing to give 75% and expect 25% in return

Ideally, your partner is your attraction, your best friend and someone you respect

Buffett on Marriage - Look for Low Expectations in a Partner

https://finance.yahoo.com/news/warren-buffett-spent-70-years-165313177.html?_fsig=4ltWrFq8Xr9lJ1kZrmAAjQ--%7EA

"You want to associate with people who are the kind of person you'd like to be. You'll move in that direction. And the most important person by far in that respect is your spouse"

"If you want a marriage to last, look for someone with low expectations," he said.

His guidance on choosing a partner with low expectations is a nuanced perspective on marriage that warrants interpretation. Rather than suggesting people should settle for anyone willing to commit, Buffett’s insight emphasizes the significance of maintaining standards.

Lessons parents need to teach kids

8 FIGHTS WORTH PICKING WITH YOUR KIDS:

Saw this somewhere and it was immensely helpful and challenging.

Parenting is hard. Parents have to choose their battles. Here are 8 fights worth picking with your kids:

The Reading Fight:

Make your kids read. Because reading is tied to everything from cognitive development to the ability to focus. Make your kids read now.

The Outside Fight:

Make your kids go outside. The natural world teaches us things. Plus, outside there's sunshine, fresh air, and exercise waiting for them. Most importantly, nature is full of things in short supply in our world: Discovery, wonder, peace, joy.

The Work Fight:

Make your kids work. I’m saddened by how many parents don’t require their kids to lift a finger at home. There are priceless life principles you can only learn with a mop in your hand. Let sweat be their teacher.

The Meal Fight:

Make your kids eat as a family. Our lives are a blur of incessant activity. Meals together are a physical pause to recover a truth so easily sacrificed at the altar of busyness. Nothing's more important than family.

The Boredom Fight:

Make your kids live with boredom. Don't show a DVD on each car ride. Kids need unscheduled time. And, odd as it sounds, boredom is a skill. It's hard as a parent to deal with the assault of boredom complaints. But if you give in and fill up their time with external stimuli, you'll raise an activity addict. Make them learn how to be.

The "Me First" Fight:

Make your kids go last. Not every time for everything. But enough to remember that the world doesn't revolve around them. Take the smallest piece. Give up the remote. Do someone else's chores. Get their least favorite choice. They won't like it, but they need it.

The Awkward Conversation Fight:

Make your kids have uncomfortable conversations with you. Sex, dating, body image, values...Your kids will roll their eyes and resist. You will stumble and stutter. They need and want your perspective, lessons learned, and wisdom.

The Limitation Fight:

Learning to live within limits is a valuable life skill. In fact, many adult problems arise from an inability to accept them. Screen time limits, dietary limits, activity limits, and schedule limits are all good.

As a parent, you have to pick your battles. They're not easy, but they're worth the fight.

Challenges becoming a man

https://medium.com/the-mission/10-habits-that-change-boys-into-men-b103c47d47e0

boys2-men-medium.com-10 Habits That Change Boys Into Men.pdf

Why liberals now vote conservative in UK

https://unherd.com/2019/12/is-this-the-end-for-labour/

Paul Embrey on what liberal UK voters really want and why they voted conservative in 2019

article

By Paul Embery

So there we have it. It turns out that the British working-class was not, in the end, willing to throw its weight behind a London-centric, youth-obsessed, middle-class party that preached the gospels of liberal cosmopolitanism and class war. Who’d have thought it?

Well, me for a start. And plenty of others who had been loyal to the party over many years and desperately wanted to see a Labour government, only to be dismissed as ‘reactionaries’ who held a ‘nostalgic’ view of the working-class.

It barely needs saying that these election results are an utter catastrophe for Labour. For the party to have failed to dislodge the Tories after nearly a decade of austerity and three years of political chaos is bad enough. But for the so-called Red Wall to have crumbled so spectacularly underlines the sheer scale of the failure. Bolsover, Blyth Valley, Leigh, Redcar, Don Valley, Sedgefield, Burnley, Great Grimsby, Wrexham — just a few of the long-time Labour strongholds in traditional working-class areas which have fallen to the Tories.

Labour’s meltdown in these places will come as no surprise to anyone who was paying attention and wasn’t blinded by ideology or fanaticism. Some of us had long warned that working-class voters across post-industrial and small-town Britain were becoming increasingly alienated from the party. But we were banging our heads against a brick wall. When many in the party were bathing in the afterglow of the 2017 general election, we tried to remind them that not only had Labour, in fact, lost that election, there had been a swing to the Tories in many of the party’s heartland seats.

We sounded the alarm bells again earlier this year when, in the local and European elections, Labour haemorrhaged support in several working-class communities across the north and Midlands.

But the woke liberals and Toytown revolutionaries who now dominate the party didn’t listen to us. They truly thought that ‘one more heave’ would bring victory. They believed that constantly hammering on about economic inequality would be enough to get Labour over the line. In doing so, they made a major miscalculation: they failed to grasp that working-class voters desire something more than just economic security; they want cultural security too.

They want politicians to respect their way of life, and their sense of place and belonging; to elevate real-world concepts such as work, family and community over nebulous constructs like ‘diversity’, ‘equality’ and ‘inclusivity’. By immersing itself in the destructive creed of identity politics and championing policies such as open borders, Labour placed itself on a completely different wavelength to millions across provincial Britain without whose support it simply could not win power. In the end, Labour was losing a cultural war that it didn’t even realise it was fighting.
Suggested reading
The danger ahead for Boris Johnson

By Mary Harrington

The easy response in the wake of this calamity would be to pin the blame on Corbyn. But that would be a mistake. It’s certainly true that Corbyn was unpopular on the doorstep, but Labour’s estrangement from its core vote predates his leadership. Long before Corbyn took over, the party had started to prioritise the agenda of the urban, liberal middle-class over that of its old working-class heartlands. As it did so, support from the latter began to ebb slowly away.

Brexit provided an opportunity for the party to reconnect with its traditional base, to show working-class voters that it understood their priorities and was on their side. But it flunked the test, choosing to indulge its own membership rather than appeal to those whose votes it needed. Its decision to support a second referendum spelled electoral suicide. There could be no greater signal to the disaffected millions in the party’s old heartlands that it did not represent them or respect their democratic wishes. From that moment, the writing was on the wall.

So where now? If Labour is to again be the party of the working-class — and there must now be serious doubts that it ever will — it must undergo radical surgery. It must somehow rediscover the spirit of the early Labour tradition that spoke to workers’ patriotic and communitarian instincts, and offered them a natural home. It must exploit that sweet spot in British politics that marries demands for economic justice with those for cultural stability. It must move heaven and earth to reconnect with voters in Britain’s hard-pressed post-industrial and coastal towns who looked on bewildered as their communities were subjected to intense economic and cultural change, and felt that Labour was indifferent to their plight. It must rekindle a politics of belonging built around shared values and common cultural bonds. And, crucially, it must be unremittingly post-liberal in perspective and policy development.
Suggested reading
How Labour became the party of dreamers — not doers

By Robert Colvile

But, to achieve any of that, Labour must stop treating the traditional working-class as though they were some kind of embarrassing elderly relative. It must learn to respect those who, for example, voted for Brexit, oppose large-scale immigration, want to see a tough and effective justice system, feel proud to be British, support the reassertion of the role of the family at the centre of society, prefer a welfare system to be based around reciprocity – something for something – rather than universal entitlement, believe in the nation state, and do not obsess about multiculturalism or trans rights.

Such people were once welcomed by the Labour party and felt entirely comfortable voting for it; but now so many of the party’s activists look upon these voters as if they were a different species altogether. And the price has been paid in millions of lost votes.

There is a danger that some in the party will see the calamitous events of this election as some kind of mandate to return to Blairism. They could not be more wrong. It was the Blairite embrace of globalisation and liberal cosmopolitanism, with all their destructive consequences for working-class communities, that did so much to damage to the relationship between the party and its traditional base. And, as we saw with the abject failure of Change UK, very few in our country want a return to that kind of politics.
More from this author

Cliché though it is, Labour stands today at a crossroads. Those whose strategy has led to the most ignominious defeat for the party since the 1930s can choose either to plough on in the delusional belief that working-class voters really would support their philosophy if only they could be shaken from their false consciousness, or instead engage in an honest and frank debate about why things went so disastrously wrong and what it might take to put them right.

We are witnessing the beginnings of a fundamental realignment in British politics. The old tribalisms are crashing down around us. How Labour responds to this will determine whether it remains a serious political force or is instead destined to become a party of permanent protest.

Leftist Economic Policies are repeating Roman history

https://fee.org/articles/how-roman-central-planners-destroyed-their-economy/?fbclid=IwAR1YjVouL_G6CclgPoncy2h-FYMqNXy-lJcpJ26Tqx5nfWPSRErsx1iYywU

economy-price-controls-How Roman Central Planners Destroyed Their Economy.pdf

Price controls have failed for 2000 years

Jason Bennick - What is important to me

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jasonbennick_as-i-get-50-li-messages-daily-many-ask-activity-6950888710578069504-TKpg?utm_source=linkedin_share&utm_medium=member_desktop_web

Jason's list of what's important

I regret nothing.
I hate no one.
I love my country.
My family comes first before everything or anyone.
I love my wife and daughter to the end of time & back again 10X
My little sister Darlene Gallagher is an angel from heaven.
I respect everyone.
I open the door for everybody.
I respect every race, color, creed, and type of identity.
I shun no one's beliefs.
I do my best to never be rude -- to anyone.
I am apolitical – I vote on who and what I believe in.
I laugh at actual humor.
I don't make fun of other people.
I don't talk shit on someone behind their back.
I accept compliments.
I give compliments.
I validate scientific findings.
I enjoy math.
I change my mind when I am wrong.
I work my ass off.
I work my ass off a lot.
I love what I do which is why I work my ass off.
I keep my word the best I can in every circumstance.
I don't betray people who trust me. I expect the same.
I ignore the haters.
I don't allow negative people in my life.
I will take a bullet for each of my best friends.
I'm rogue, different, and non-compliant, and I love it.
I drive way faster than I am supposed to.
I never take calls from anyone not in my contacts.
I prefer hybrid comms: apps, SMS, email, calls, and meetups.
I love startups and will never stop building the future.
I will never live in a corporate career environment.
I am a human rights humanitarian and have been for 40 years.
I believe the neglect of human rights on this planet is its demise.
I believe restoring universal human rights will save the planet.
I will not compromise my personal integrity for power or influence.
I don't have a price tag.
I don't make important business decisions alone.
I treat my teams, partners, and colleagues as my peers.
I love sushi, rotisserie chicken, wagyu beef, steamed broccoli, chocolate gelato, and mochi's.
I am terrible at getting around to my thousands of messages.
I am an app junkie and staunch technocract.

The Lesson - Perfection - Secretariat's Win at Belmont Stakes - 1973

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ka890sC2yYo

Secretariat’s record-setting Belmont Stakes win to claim the Triple Crown still stands 50 years on

Ron Turcotte, Secretariat jockey

https://apnews.com/article/secretariat-belmont-50th-anniversary-b0c58783ace542e674b7c008bb2ac688

“He was the type of horse that you’ll never see again,” jockey Ron Turcotte said Wednesday, nearly 50 years to the day since riding Secretariat in the Belmont. “He was doing something that you’ve never seen before and will probably never see again.”

Secretariat’s run in the Belmont is so legendary the racetrack has a pole inside the rail — in his signature blue-and-white checkered silks — marking where the next-closest horse was when he crossed the finish line.

Halfway through the race, it was over.

Secretariat had run the fastest 3/4-mile in Belmont history in just under 70 seconds. By the time he pulled 10 lengths ahead of Sham, the camera had to pan out to show how massive the lead was.

“Secretariat is widening now!” track announcer Chic Anderson said during one of the most memorable race calls in history. “He’s moving like a tremendous machine!”

Watching Secretariat Win the Belmont Stakes

Jim Mason

If you see that race, it changes you forever.

You are looking to see a horse race.

Secretariat was ready for something else.

It was a horse race for about half the race.

Then it was something else.

Something you have never seen before.

Secretariat had nothing to prove.

You weren't prepared for what happened.

The race was over.

You were watching perfection.

Secretariat was running for himself.

Running because he was perfect.

Running because perfect moments make life worth living.

Everyone who sees that race is permanently scarred for life by the memory of it.

You were changed forever to see, to know what perfection is.

No one is prepared for that.

You were cheering for the horse to win.

Then you are just in awe.

This isn't about winning.

It's about perfection.

You realize that for the first time in your life maybe.

It's different. It's not about competition.

It's about what's possible

.. and exceeding those expectations forever.

The emotions cut deep and left scars that linger for a life time in all of us.

You try to understand it.

You try to make sense of it.

Then you feel different: about Secretariat, about you, about the world around you.

At the end, all you know is that these words now mean something different forever:

possible, perfection, inspiration, hope, belief, greatness, heart, drive, joy, eternity

Potential Value Opportunities

If you're down now, forgive yourself, find joy now and who can you help?

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Signs of Emotional Intelligence

Some key signs and examples of emotional intelligence include:1

An ability to identify and describe what people are feeling
An awareness of personal strengths and limitations
Self-confidence and self-acceptance
The ability to let go of mistakes
An ability to accept and embrace change
A strong sense of curiosity, particularly about other people
Feelings of empathy and concern for others
Showing sensitivity to the feelings of other people
Accepting responsibility for mistakes
The ability to manage emotions in difficult situations

Using Emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence can be used in many different ways in your daily life. Some different ways to practice emotional intelligence include:

Being able to accept criticism and responsibility
Being able to move on after making a mistake
Being able to say no when you need to
Being able to share your feelings with others
Being able to solve problems in ways that work for everyone
Having empathy for other people
Having great listening skills
Knowing why you do the things you do
Not being judgemental of others

Emotional intelligence is essential for good interpersonal communication. Some experts believe that this ability is more important in determining life success than IQ alone. Fortunately, there are things that you can do to strengthen your own social and emotional intelligence.

Build Your Emotional Intelligence Skills

Here are some tips.

Listen

If you want to understand what other people are feeling, the first step is to pay attention. Take the time to listen to what people are trying to tell you, both verbally and non-verbally. Body language can carry a great deal of meaning. When you sense that someone is feeling a certain way, consider the different factors that might be contributing to that emotion.

Empathize

Picking up on emotions is critical, but we also need to be able to put ourselves into someone else's shoes in order to truly understand their point of view. Practice empathizing with other people. Imagine how you would feel in their situation. Such activities can help us build an emotional understanding of a specific situation as well as develop stronger emotional skills in the long-term.

Reflect

The ability to reason with emotions is an important part of emotional intelligence. Consider how your own emotions influence your decisions and behaviors. When you are thinking about how other people respond, assess the role that their emotions play.

Why is this person feeling this way? Are there any unseen factors that might be contributing to these feelings? How to your emotions differ from theirs? As you explore such questions, you may find that it becomes easier to understand the role that emotions play in how people think and behave.

Helping Democracy - Stakeholders on Expectations, Consequences and the key C's process

In democracies that are ineffective, we see:

polarized views from many as a shortcut to fuller understanding of challenges and opportunities
the intentional use of misinformation to support polarized views by extremists
often those complaining about others misinformation may also use misinformation
any and every concept or theme distorted to support one stakeholder group view
moderates often don't or won't take the floor in debates on important issues leaving extemists in control

What can be done differently to make democracy more effective?

for a given problem, challenge, opportunity or solution:

leadership that recognizes the value of all stakeholders for solutions, not just those demanding or defining one

identify ALL the stakeholder groups and connect them

for EACH stakeholder group looking at a solution, identify the group expectations and potential consequnces for a proposed solution

Focus on the Key C's to move forward with appropriate communication and actions for the all to build a better process, solution and community:

Community
Connection
Communication
Clear
Concise
Caring
Compliant
Collaborate
Cooperate
Correct
Concrete
Compromise
Consensus
Commitments
Course of Action
Coordination
Confirmation
Complete
Congratulations

Key questions to answer for yourself for any opportunity or solution

What do you feel? Why?
What do you know? What don't you know?
Who are all the stakeholder groups and their expectations, consequences? What is their history ?
Where are there key differences in value? goals? methods? costs? risks? success factors?
Where is there consensus?
Where can compromise be built?
What commitments can be made?
How should a course of action be set and coordinated?
How do we confirm and measure completion and success for all stakeholder groups and the defined course of action?
Has this effort built stronger collaboration among stakeholders going forward?

Who are your political leaders?

Did the people you voted for work to make democracy more effective?
Will you vote differently next time?

Fun

GTO Time

GTO Time --- There are some things in life you never forget ... ever .... getting behind the wheel of that '64 Fire engine red GTO with white leather interior, white vinyl top and going from 2nd through 3rd gear .. fast. That's the closest I'll ever come to being an Astronaut. The G force ( short for GTO force ) threw you back in the seat as the car literally jumped forward. It seemed like 1 second to pass 7 cars on a 2 lane road in 1 shot. We called it the Time Machine because it changed the time between any 2 points on a map. Whatever was normal time, GTO time could be up to 50% or more faster... a 200 mile road trip in 1:45. Nothing like it .. ever.

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