Key Points

1. personal accountability for behavior
2. identify the right sources of emotional support
3. find the right lead professional to manage the biggest problems through a life cycle
4. what's the most important problem to fix?
5. what's the next step in the right direction to correct it?
6. There are often times when social services is not effective enough
7. Schools that do not deal with behavior issues are of  limited help
8. Residential treatment can be very effective as a change agent for good in many cases

References

Key Concepts

effective-communication-by-type-2024.pdf.   

super agers have healthier brains

https://www.cnn.com/2022/11/26/health/superager-secrets-good-memory-wellness/index.html

brain-Secrets of SuperAgers with superior memories into their 80s.pdf file

elite group enrolled in the Northwestern SuperAging Research Program, which has been studying the elderly with superior memories for 14 years.

 studies have shown the cortex, responsible for thinking, decision-making and memory, remains much thicker and shrinks more slowly than those of people in their 50s and 60s.

also has bigger, healthier cells in the entorhinal cortex. It’s “one of the first areas of the brain to get ‘hit’ by Alzheimer’s disease,” 

The entorhinal cortex has direct connections to another key memory center, the hippocampus, and “is essential for memory and learning,”

Habits that hurt your brain

https://www.webmd.com/alzheimers/ss/slideshow-bad-brain-habits?ecd=wnl_spr_081523&ctr=wnl-spr-081523_lead_cta&mb=PA94GqMvBYmbWw51aAqUpSpiMzVEF17P94Jy1fLAP3Y%3D

Manage Your Emotions - Don't Let Emotions Manage You

Self Worth Concepts

How Do You Measure Your Self-Worth?

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-do-you-measure-your-self-worth-melinda-fisher-midja-

How Do You Measure Your Self-Worth?

https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2015/01/18/how-do-you-measure-your-self-worth/?sh=62003d111ed2

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How Do You Measure Your Self-Worth?

Five things that shouldn't determine how you value yourself.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201707/how-do-you-measure-your-self-worth

When to Just Say No article on Tradepub

1. Priorities. When you’re hijacked by other people’s priorities, you don’t have time to tackle your own. Make your priorities a priority.
   
   
2. Personal values. Hold firm to your beliefs and values. When you succumb to peer pressure, you may live to regret it.
   
   
3. Focus. If you try to be good at everything, you’ll end up being mediocre at everything.
   
   
4. Balance. Stop trying to fill your calendar each day. Happiness is a result of balance rather than intensity.
   
   
5. Productivity. Just because some people waste their time doesn’t entitle them to waste yours.
   
   
6. Shortcuts. Don’t allow yourself to be talked into every harebrained idea.Get-rich-quick schemes rarely pan out in the long run.
   
   
7. Appetite. Be grateful for the things you have in your life rather than being obsessed with more.
   
   
8. Resource allocation. Concentrate your resources rather than making across-the-board decisions.
9. Attitude. When you allow negative and unethical people to pollute your thoughts, you’re forced to carry a heavy load. Carefully choose the people with whom you associate.
   
   
10. Conscience. Never let anyone persuade you to compromise your integrity. Listen to your conscience. That’s why you have one.
    
    
11. Happiness. Say “no” every once in a while — before you become resentful. When you spend more time doing have-to’s rather than want-to’s, other people’s happiness becomes more important than your own.
    
    
12. Self-respect. Take ownership of your life decisions rather than relinquishing that responsibility to others. When you constantly seek approval, you give more weight to another person’s opinion than to your own.

Signs of Low Self-Esteem article

Some common signs or symptoms of low self-esteem include:

• Lack of confidence
• External locus of control
• Negative social comparisons
• Trouble asking for help
• Worry and doubt
• Difficulty accepting compliments
• Negative self-talk
• Fear of failure
• Poor outlook of the future
• Lack of boundaries
• Being a people-pleaser

ower levels of self-esteem is linked to a number of mental health issues, including:

• Anxiety
• Eating disorders
• Emotional distress
• Internet addiction7
• Panic disorder
• Risky behaviors8
• Social anxiety disorder9
• Substance use
• Stress

Activities that can lead to low self-esteem: 

• Brooding, or being pre-occupied with dark or sad memories or thoughts
• Engaging in negative self-talk or self-criticism
• Having a mental health disorder
• Low levels of resilience
• Maladaptive coping skills
• Rumination, or obsessively thinking about one thing

Positive activities for low-self esteem

• Focus on Hopeful Thoughts
• Care for Yourself
• Get Outside Support

How to Fix Low Self-Esteem

Potential Value Opportunities

School Bullies can be Fixed .. and Should

Facebook response to a boy who hung himself

Jody Mason Underwood thanks for the lesson on Christianity. Yes separation of church and state is fundamental.
That said schools need to operate under 1 set of rules for all. Yes students come from all different types of families with all types of value systems. Schools need to establish a strong order on rules of behavior first - no exceptions. Setting clear expectations and consequences for behavior comes first. That's the most important lesson to teach. Without that, real learning occurs a lot less often and school safety is at risk. The schools ( and related laws ) need to support enforcement of those rules. School is not a democracy where you decide what rules you agree with and what you don't. Students under 18 are legally minors for a reason.

In.a well structured learning environment, kids do learn about rules.

1. They learn what the rules are.
2. They learn they didn't choose the rules.
3. They learn it's their choice whether they follow the rules.
4. They learn the consequences of not following the rules. 
5. They learn successful behavior based on the consequences of following and not following the rules.
6. It you take away positive and negative consequences, you have failed them

Potential Challenges

Depression-triggers-and-aging

Loneliness is a growing health problem for many

the causes and solutions for combating feelings of isolation.

He warned that about half of U.S. adults are experiencing considerable levels of loneliness, which can affect physical, mental and societal health

Loneliness is a subjective feeling -- that the connections that we need in our life are greater than the connections we actually have.

If it's persistent, not temporary - that's a problem

One in two adults in America are living with measurable levels of loneliness, but the numbers are even higher among young people.

So, this is an incredibly common challenge that we're facing.

less personal, physical interactions << more online, remote interactions

epidemic of loneliness and isolation that has been building for years.

declining participation in the organizations that used to bring us together, like recreational leagues and service organizations and faith organizations.

just spending a few minutes each day, reaching out to people we care about can make a real big difference in how connected we feel.

5 for 5 action plan >>  expressing gratitude to someone, it could be calling a friend to extend help to them at a time when they're struggling, or it could be asking for help yourself. But doing this over five days will make you feel different.

Which party has a focus on the social fragmentation and isolation problems we live with ?? Neither 

Bad Habits Shorten Your Life

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36 Habits that are slowly killing you:
1. Too less/too much sleep.
2. Overuse of medication.
3. Skipping exercise.
4. Excessive food.
5. Lack of social activities.
6. Too much mobile time.
7. Staying in an unhealthy relationship.
8. Skipping sunlight.
9. Negative thinking.
10. Taking too much sugar/salt.
11. Overworking
12. Neglecting personal boundaries.
13. Sitting for long hours
14. Bad body posture.
15. Spending before earning.
16. Excessive alcohol consumption.
17. Living life on autopilot.
18. Always aggressive behavior.
19. Inadequate hydration.
20. Nervous habits (nail-biting, etc).
21. Constant comparison to others.
22. Excessive screen time before bed.
23. Not relaxing.
24. Overindulging in fast food.
25. Holding onto grudges.
26. Poor financial management.
27. Procrastination.
28. Avoiding seeking help or support.
29. Skipping medical check-ups.
30. Negative self-talk.
31. Ignoring mental health needs.
32. Over commitment.
33. Engaging in gossip.
34. Chronic lateness or disorganization.
35. Avoiding confrontation.
36. Lack of self-reflection.

Brain Damage from different Conditions

https://www.webmd.com/brain/ss/slideshow-conditions-brain?ecd=wnl_spr_050923&ctr=wnl-spr-050923_lead_cta&mb=PA94GqMvBYmbWw51aAqUpSpiMzVEF17P94Jy1fLAP3Y%3D

brain-damage-webmd.com-How Conditions Change Your Brain.pdf. link

brain-damage-webmd.com-How Conditions Change Your Brain.pdf file

Depression

doesn’t affect just your mood. The disorder can change your brain. Experts say it lessens activity in some brain areas, including your prefrontal lobes, which are involved with things like reasoning, personality, and judgment. One study found that people who were depressed for more than a decade had about 30% more brain inflammation. This may lead to brain cell loss, which would make memory problems and dementia more likely

Schizophrenia

People with schizophrenia have different brains than those without this mental disorder. Scans show they lose gray and white matter, the fatty material that makes up the brain. White matter sits deep in the brain, where information travels. Gray matter surrounds it and, among other things, helps the brain process information. In people who have schizophrenia, gray matter tends to leave first, with white matter going away over time.

Alzheimer’s

Your brain has cells called neurons. They “talk” to each other through chemical and electrical signals, and send messages to the rest of your body. Alzheimer’s disease disrupts this communication. It’s thought that the breakdown comes from a buildup of two proteins, amyloid and tau. Both create tangles that might disrupt messages.

ADHD

Experts think ADHD symptoms, like inattention and hyperactivity, come from brain differences. Research shows there’s less gray and white matter in people with ADHD. Certain areas also take longer to take shape. What’s more, networks of nerve cells work differently. These networks send signals in the brain, and they play a role in attention and focus.

https://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd

These treatments focus on changing behavior.

• Special education helps a child learn at school. Having structure and a routine can help children with ADHD a lot.
• Behavior modification teaches ways to replace bad behaviors with good ones. Let your child know what behaviors you expect of them. Make simple, clear rules. When they lose control, have them face consequences that you’ve set up, like time-outs or losing privileges. Keep an eye out for good behavior. When they keep their impulses in check, reward them.
• Psychotherapy (counseling) can help someone with ADHD learn better ways to handle their emotions and frustration. It could help improve their self-esteem. Counseling may also help family members better understand a child or adult with ADHD.

Many symptoms of ADHD can be managed with medication and therapy. Close cooperation among therapists, doctors, teachers, and parents is very important.

Some of the things researchers have looked at include:

• Toxins, such as lead
• “Western” diet. One study found that children who ate a diet high in added sugar, fats, and sodium and low in fiber and omega-3 fatty acids had a greater chance of ADHD.
• Nutritional deficiencies
• Food additives. There may be a link between food coloring additives and preservatives and ADHD

Schizophrenia

https://www.webmd.com/schizophrenia/ss/slideshow-schizophrenia-overview

https://braindonorproject.org/someone-you-care-about-is-struggling-with-mental-illness-and-science-needs-answers/?gclid=CjwKCAjwgqejBhBAEiwAuWHioPpHnbXuPz-WfoYavtyICcdf1pBbzyQz-RTcd80ivR4ARcbXPNmntRoCGQ0QAvD_BwE

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/schizophrenia/symptoms-causes/syc-20354443#:~:text=There's%20no%20sure%20way%20to,to%20earlier%20diagnosis%20and%20treatment.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/wall-street-accountant-turned-professional-093100857.html

Candidate Solutions

The Choose Kindness Project

https://www.thechoosekindnessproject.org/

A Kinder World Starts with Us
Working together on bullying prevention, intentional inclusion and youth mental wellness, we can help kids create the futures that they imagine.

call 911 for emergencies

call 988 for mental health

Find actionable resources from The Choose Kindness Alliance — a coalition of the nation’s leading nonprofit organizations — focusing on bullying prevention, intentional inclusion and youth mental wellness.

all resources

https://www.thechoosekindnessproject.org/resource/?role=&topic=featured&topic=

1/3 of teens surveyed say that they have been bullied in the past year.
Survey conducted by The Choose Kindness Project with Ipsos

Importantly, when young people feel connected to adults, they are less likely to report ongoing sadness or hopelessness.

pillars of work:

Prepare parents, coaches and other caring adults with the resources and guidance they need to help young people build the futures they imagine

Inspire a culture of inclusion, mental wellness and belonging so all young people feel safe to be themselves and allies to others

Uplift organizations with investments in research, collaborations and innovations in order to help them expand their reach and impact

Kindness Project

https://www.missfoundation.org/kindness-project/

The idea is to perform random acts of kindness, usually anonymous, in your community. A little card is left behind so that the person who benefits from the kindness knows that someone’s life and death continues to matter. This beautiful movement has helped thousands of families to heal and find meaningful outlets for their overwhelming grief.

2,000,000 (yes, two million!) Kindness Project cards have been used around the world to perform random acts of kindness in memory of a child, parent, friend, or spouse who died before their time.

Be Happier

https://www.webmd.com/balance/ss/slideshow-be-happier?ecd=wnl_spr_101923&ctr=wnl-spr-101923_supportTop_cta_1&mb=PA94GqMvBYmbWw51aAqUpSpiMzVEF17P94Jy1fLAP3Y%3d

happiness-webmd.com-How to Be Happier.pdf.  link

happiness-webmd.com-How to Be Happier.pdf. file

What are you grateful for now?

Who have you helped now?

Be Smarter - Build Your Brain Power with Exercises

see also Be Happier - >> positive attitudes always matter

1 Prioritize Physical Exercise
2 Embrace a Brain-Boosting Diet
3 Cultivate Quality Sleep Habits
4 Practice Mindfulness and Meditation
5 Engage in Continuous Learning
6 Limit Screen Time and Digital Distractions
7 Foster Social Connections
8 Develop a Positive Mindset
9 Final Thoughts

How to become an online personal therapist?

Guidelines on Training and Certification for online therapist

https://www.snhu.edu/about-us/newsroom/social-sciences/how-to-become-an-online-therapist#:~:text=To%20become%20an%20online%20therapist%2C%20you'll%20likely%20need%20to,earning%20licensure%20in%20your%20state.

How to Build and Grow an Online Therapy Practice

https://www.powerdiary.com/blog/how-to-start-an-online-therapy-practice/

Better Help Staffing Concepts

$50 per hour for sessions

Step-by-step guide for Example

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